消防员--为爱情大胆尝试 The Love Dare 第1-10天
2019-04-30
希望对已经结婚或将要结婚的弟兄姐妹有帮助！
为爱情大胆尝试 The Love Dare （四十天计划表）
作者：埃里克斯·肯德里克(Alex Kendrick) | 出处：影片《消防员》
影片《消防员》中，在熊熊大火中奋不顾身的烈火英雄卡利波，工作中的座右铭是：“永远不要把同伴抛在后面”。许多次，卡利波为了保护战友都冒着生命的危险。但是，他这句格言却没有应用在妻子的身上。回到家里，与妻子的婚姻处于水深火热中，救火英雄面对自己即将倒塌的婚姻却一筹莫展。只能眼睁睁的看着自己与妻子的关系随着时间慢慢的恶化、疏远。终于，他们夫妻决定了离婚。
卡利波的父亲知道这个消息后，为帮助儿子的婚姻死灰复燃，父亲给了他一份手写的40天计划，叫为爱情大胆尝试(Love Dare)。在父亲的劝说下，卡利波勉强同意了这个计划。虽然屡遭妻子的拒绝，父亲仍然鼓励他，向他解释：这份爱是上帝赐予我们的礼物……终于，卡利波成功了！你也可以，为什么不试试呢？
挑战第一周
第一天
Love Dare - Day 1
Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse today.
今天，请努力，不说有关配偶的坏话 (负面的评价)，是的，一句也不说。
** 相关圣经启示
Eph 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
以弗所书4：2 凡事谦虚、温柔、忍耐、用爱心互相宽容。
第二天
Love Dare - Day 2
Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness.
至少做一件让配偶意想不到的事情，来表示你对配偶的好意和善心。
** 相关圣经启示
Eph 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
以弗所书4:32 并要以恩慈相待、存怜悯的心、彼此饶恕、正如神在基督里饶恕了你们一样
第三天
Love Dare - Day 3
Buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking about you today.”
给配偶买点东西，来表述心意说：“我今天想着你！”
** 相关圣经启示
Rom 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.
罗马书12:10爱弟兄、要彼此亲热。恭敬人、要彼此推让
第四天
Love Dare - Day 4
Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
给配偶打个电话或留个言，问个好，看是否能帮他/她做点什么。
** 相关圣经启示
Gen 2:18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
创 世 纪2:18 耶和华神说、那人独居不好、我要为他造一个配偶帮助他。
第五天
Love Dare - Day 5
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them.
询问配偶，让他/她告诉你三件事，三件你让配偶在平时生活中感觉不爽的事情。 请千万留意你不要因此而反击你的配偶。
** 相关圣经启示
Pro 27:14 If a man loudly blesses his neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as a curse.
箴言27:14 清晨起来、大声给朋友祝福的、就算是咒诅他。
第六天
Love Dare - Day 6
Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.
请选择用友爱的方式，而不是用怒火来应对婚姻中的礁石。
** 相关圣经启示
Pro 16:32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.
箴言16:32 不轻易发怒的、胜过勇士。治服己心的、强如取城。
第七天
Love Dare - Day 7
On a sheet of paper, write out positive things about your spouse. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic.
在一页纸上，罗列出配偶的优点。然后，时不时地从中找出一两项，来赞扬和感激配偶的这些优良品质。
** 相关圣经启示
1Co 13:7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
歌林多前书13:7 凡事包容、凡事相信、凡事盼望、凡事忍耐。
挑战第二周
第八天
Love Dare - Day 8
Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
告诉你的配偶，你为他/她最近引以为豪的成就，感到由衷的快乐和喜悦。
** 相关圣经启示
Son 8:6 Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.
雅歌书8:6 求你将我放在你心上如印记、带在你臂上如戳记。因为爱情如死之坚强，嫉恨如阴间之残忍，所发的电光、是火焰的电光、是耶和华的烈焰。
第九天
Love Dare - Day 9
Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm.
今天，想出一招去问候你的配偶，带着微笑和热情使出此招，来表达对配偶的爱意。
** 相关圣经启示
1Pe 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.
彼得前书5:14 你们要用爱心彼此亲嘴问安。愿平安归与你们凡在基督里的人。
第十天
Love Dare - Day 10
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.
今天，为配偶做点非同寻常的事情。
** 相关圣经启示
Rom 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
罗马书5:8 惟有基督在我们还作罪人的时候为我们死、 神的爱就在此向我们显明了。
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